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Tuesday, February 15, 2011

A Time for Love

"I am my beloved's, and my beloved is mine..." 
~Song of Solomon 6:3

I think it's safe to say that most of us have had love on our minds considering yesterday was Valentine's Day. I can't say that I'm a huge fan of Valentine's Day...I really hate that society needed to set aside a day where you show someone you love them. It really is something we should be doing 24/7. On the other hand it is fun to go out of your way for those you love and make the day special for them. And we all have someone to love or someone who loves us. Valentine's Day doesn't need to be about having a husband or wife or significant other. It is about showing those around you that you love them. Ben and I have never really celebrated the day...not consistently anyway. We don't exchange expensive gifts. I might get some chocolates or some flowers but not necessarily and I might make a special dinner but that depends on the year too. I much prefer when he comes home and surprises me with something then when it's done on a day he thinks he Valentine's Day. This year though I had a little extra time so decided I'd make the day special for my family and it was time well spent. 

It got me thinking of a book I read a few years back called The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. If you've never read it I highly recommend you do. It's a quick read as it's not real deep and it's fun learning what you and your significant other's love language is. What I really love about the book is that it helps you understand how your mate feels loved. Sometimes we get caught up in what WE want. I WANT to show you love this way and you need to accept it. While I do believe that it's important we see love for what it is and understand that people aren't always going to make us feel loved the way we want, it is also important to know how the other person WANTS to feel love. Our main desire and goal should be to please God first then others and then yourself. (Remember the acronym J-O-Y...Jesus, Others, You...this will truly bring you JOY!) If you do not know what the people (our kids/parents/friends need to feel our love as well) around you need to feel loved then how can you be a blessing to them? I know for me my love language is "Acts of Service" and so because of that I tend to show love to others that way because it's how I feel loved. What I had to learn is that for some, acts of service, while appreciated, don't necessarily make them feel loved. If you really want to be a blessing to someone and have them feel they are loved by you then I suggest learning what their love language is. There's no better feeling than knowing what you've done for a person made them feel loved! 
"And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love"~ I Corinthians 13:13

My Special Valentine's!

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